Why bother having a formal night if you don't enforce the dress code?

K I just had to throw this out there to see what everyone else thinks.

 

There was a couple on board the Ruby.  The gal was always dressed tip top shape every time I saw her.  Formal night too of course.  Her boyfriend or husband, not sure, was always dressed in t-shirt and baggy pants.  

 

On the second formal night they show up at the MDR entrance.  Gal in a super nice dress and the guy in his usual t-shirt and baggy jeans.  It appeared the hostess said something to the guy and I could hear him protesting.  Then for whatever reason she let this guy into the MDR.

 

I'm thinking, "Why have a formal night if you're going to let this guy in dressed like that?"

 

Anyhow, I'm interested in what others think about that type of situation.  Maybe I'm getting too cranky in my young age.  

 

 

31 Answers

 

Most cruise lines are heading away from formal nights and calling them all kinds of different things, dress up or not, cruise elegant. And a few others I can’t remember. My feelings are this it really does not matter to me. Some folks enjoy dressing to the nines and some don’t.  How someone else dresses is not going to hamper my crew one way or another.

 However, with that said I believe if they are going to make rules they need to enforce them.

We have seen tank tops, ball caps, basketball shorts, etc. on the other hand we see tuxedos, elegant dresses, etc.

Does it bother us- nope! We dress to what we feel makes us comfortable- we do not look out of place or stick out like a sore thumb but we are there to enjoy ourselves and what anyone else has no effect on it.

I agree. When we cruise, we are clean and respectable always, and we dress appropriately. This means clothing we would wear to a summer wedding or nicer social function for the “elegant “ evenings in the diningroom, not a goen or even cocktail dress for me, and not a tux for my husband. He will wear a sports jacket, tie and dress pants for the first elegant night, but often no tie for the 2nd. It would not affect our dinner or our enjoyment of the evening if tablemates were dressed very casually. 

 

Just because a person is dressed up doesn’t mean they have good table manners and behave in a respectful way towards others.

 

 

LOL!  That’s definitely true!

 

Shared a table a few cruises back in the MDR.  A nicely dressed older lady at the table kept talking to me in a condescending manner.  I ended up just shutting up and eating in silence.

 

 

 

Would have switched tables cause i would not have been comfortable or polite in that matter.

I loved this exchange, back when Celebrity was trying to decide over a dress anyway policy: One guy in response said: "I certainly won't miss "Formal" nights or the judgemental posts on the boards. Does the way the guy next to you is dressed really affect your ability to enjoy your cruise? Sit back, pour the wine, raise a glass to the good ol' days and enjoy the dinner you didn't have to cook."

 

A lady responded:  "I also don't have to cook at McDonalds - doesn't mean I want to eat there. And NO - I don't want to wear a formal evening gown at the same table while you are in jeans. What a joke that makes for all."

 

We do like formal nights, but from the looks of things formal nights are an endangered species. Most guests appear to prefer no formal nights at all, about 70% from what I can determine. For us, it hearkens back to the days of yore, days of romantic ocean travel which many yearn for the return thereof. I don't have the heart to tell my wife about this trend until I can find a new cruise line that still caters to guests who like formal attire.

 

I agree!  Only once did I see the hostess stop someone from entering the MDR. She asked him to remove his baseball cap, he did but we don't know if he put it on again once inside.  The hostesses on the Ruby were the nicest ladies and tried to be polite to everyone.  I wish we could have coordinated a bit more for dining, we had some wonderful table-mates and some duds.  But dining with you and JusMe was always good. 

I really enjoyed formal nights, the wife not so much. I would take my tuxedo and depending on the length of cruise 2 or 3 vests and bow ties. When my tux finally wore and trying to pair down our packing I decided to go away from it and did not replace my tux. My formal wear is now my Tommy Bahama panelback shirts, I am still better dressed than most. 

 

On the P&O Aurora last December, the rule was enforced in the dining hall , on a formal night. I was dressed smart casual but without a jacket. The superviser was intent on following the rules rigidly, and did not want to accomodate me. A senior manager came over , and brought his spare formal coat , for me to use during dinner. Hats of to this gentleman. He went beyond the call of duty .i had a lovely meal and returned the coat , along with a million thanks. Somtimes this issue can land you in an embarrassing situation. Mine was avoided by this display of human kindness. To avoid a repeat of this occuring in future , and if there are formal nights onboard, i will always carry a formal coat.Although , i may not be too comfortable wearing it on vacation, the rules dictate that i do. Its a small price to pay , to keep everyone happy

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