What would you do in this situation ?

This did not happen to me, it was posted elsewhere. I brought it over here with permission.  I was just looking for other opinions.



An interesting thing happened at dinner in the main dining room. 


On the second night of our cruise on the Breeze. The three of us were sitting at our table. The other two families of three each were not there yet. One we knew was at the steak house because they told us on the first night. The other family had not arrived. 


A table next to us was empty on the first night of the cruise. 


Back to the second night. We are sitting waiting for our table mates to arrive and the maitre d walks up to the table.  He ask us if we would be willing to move to another table because the people from the table that was empty the first night wanted their friends to sit next to them for dinner.  


We said no. We could not really speak for our other table mates who were not there. But we said no for them anyway. We asked why they did not try to make any arrangements on the first night. They said they were busy.   


Would you give up your table?


8 Answers

This is not really an unusual request, in itself. If the situation was reversed, I think it would only be fair for the other passengers in question to make their own arrangement. If they wanted their friends close, they should arrange to share a table. We have met great folks on the longer cruises we have been on and arrange to meet at dinner, so we plan ahead and speak to the Maitre'd . It worked for us.

In this case, without being there myself, I would probably have given up the table.....But, I'm Canadian and we are always sometimes way to accommodating ....Big Smile

It depends, if I liked my table mates and it was an ocean view table I would stay, if table mates were duds then I would change tables as long as new table was English Speaking and not in the back corner by the kitchen door.

On one cruise a couple asked us to change tables so her brother and sister in law could sit with them. Before I could say anything my friend said OK. I felt bad, it was a table for 6 so the 3rd couple were now stuck with a family of 4 that did not use much English.

Given the situation I would have no problem moving. I personally don't think the Maitre'd should have asked until all the people who share the table were present. I would probably give up the table.

Here's the thing. The family in question was not in attendance the first night, yet they came the second night and requested everyone else to move. Why not just take an available table elsewhere with their friends ? If I'm at the table the first night, I already have plans to tip this waiter at the end of the week. He may already know I want two chilled soups every night. Point being, I have a relationship with this waiter, you don't. You weren't here last night. I also enjoy the company of my table mates from last night. So, I'm staying put.

I suppose I would try to be accommodating but I would want to know who was sitting at the table that we would move to. If it was a less desirable table I would reluctantly say say no.

If I enjoyed the other table mates and we could all be moved together to another table, then yes. If we would be split apart, probably not. It isn't easy finding good table mates to share a week or longer with. We've been saddled with some real turkeys over the years. My thought is that the inconvenience of moving should be on the people making the request.

I agree with CruisingCM. Table mates tend to bond the first night. It would be like breaking up a family.

We have not taken a cruise without going with at least another family member or friends. Therefore, we never sat down to dinner with strangers? for lack of a better word. I Probably would not have given up our table since the cruise should be an adventure to meet new people. The other couple looking to sit near their friends should not have asked. beside what do they do all day, see each other? When we take our cruise with friends and family the number rule is only at dinner time do we meet up. The rest of the cruise time do your own thing if you want. Take different excursions, walk to different places, see different shows. When we cruise about 50% of the time we are not with the traveling companions because it is a vacation for you and your spouse first and foremost so you can enjoy a fairly expensive vacation. In my book this goes also for family reunion cruises.


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