The question of what you do.

Sorry but this thought I highjacked from why are people snobs thread. I thought it was a great question.

I currently have been sailing solo. I always eventuality get the question as in what I do for a living. I feel I need to beat around the bush or just make something up that I know quite a bit about in my work environment but not directly what I do. I get to many questions and looks to be forthright. Not worth it.... So does this happen to you or bother you? I personally could not care less what someone does on a cruise. Unless of course it's a nice single gal. Not looking for a spongeHappy

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About a year ago I had posted something to the effect of "re-inventing" yourself on a cruise (and basically got a lot of flack for it). My point somewhat speaks to your post in that I have found a need not to go into my life story on a cruise except during that rare time when you've spent enough time with someone to feel comfortable doing so.

I see no reason to share EVERYTHING with people you meet on a cruise and I also find a good answer to what do you do for a living is to joke it off and say - Oh please, I am on vacation and that is the last thing I want to talk about (my son uses that one frequently!)

A cruise ship can be like a small town and if you've ever experienced that environment, you know how fish bowly that can be ... I am usually very vague about who I am, where I live, or what I do ...

True Deb. All true.

Todd - I haven't seen you back on Where is Everyone - did you know it's back !!!!!

I've gotten to the point that if retired isn't enough for a casual conversation then too bad. I like what Debbie's son uses. Of course now I have, "why my dear, I am the Duchess of Norfolk" complete with the nose in the air, then they are in for it, because I pictures. Depends on the situation of course but you need a standard answer to explain that you do not discuss your job with new friends. The "I would tell you but then I would have to kill you" or "I don't talk politics, religion, or profession with acquaintances". I know you are witty and can find your version of "none of your business" that will work.

My son has also used:

I quit my job to come on this cruise and I'm never going back I work for the IRS Investigation Division What's a job? I'm a gigolo

These are fun.Love

For me I enjoy hearing about other's work and what they do. Gives me a chance to find out more about the world around me. On the Grand Princess I met and spent time with a retired lawyer couple, husband and wife, both had their careers in the field. I enjoyed hearing about their work and it gave me a new perspective about that profession. They aren't all sharks, rats, and snakes. These were genuinely good folks that I enjoyed having wine and dinner with.

Another cruise there was a retired nurse that started in the year that I was born. I enjoyed hearing about nursing back in the 60's and 70's and she didn't mind talking about it.

And I enjoy talking about my work. Get me started on jet engines and I'll go on and on.

But I look out for the cues if someone doesn't want to talk about something. People are fairly clear with non-verbal ques or phrases that have a lot "inbetween the lines".

I think that if you don't want to talk about your work, a casual but friendly toned, "I don't care to talk about my work, especially when I'm on vacation," I think would be enough to get someone to move on to another topic. If they persisted in wanting to know, time to move on to someone else, that person is obviously going to be too pushy to spend time with.

And at the risk of offending people here but I'm getting older and don't care anymore, it seems to me that people from Europe, Australia, Canada and the US Midwest seem to be the most friendliest to meet on a cruise.

I like to chat about where people are from, but what someone does for a living really doesn't matter to me.

No? Haven't seen it. I looked for it. Maybe I was banned for doing nothing? Where is it?????

I scrolled way back and nothing.Surprised I know I didn't break a time out rule too...


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