Seeing crew members on break or ashore

Back from an awesome cruise on the Grand Princess. A question came to mind on this cruise.

Approaching crew members for a chat when they aren't on duty. Either on ship, obviously on break time, or ashore, when they are browsing around like us - does anyone ever try approaching them to talk?

I never do since I assume they want downtime from passenger interactions. Many times when I see them on break they have that look of, "Please don't bother me right now". Have also read reviews where a friendly crew member on ship was surly on shore.

Any thoughts about this topic?

22 Answers

I don't know for sure, but on our Panama Canal cruise I was boarding the ship in Aruba behind our room steward. I said hello and he seemed very pleased that I recognized him off ship. I told his fellow crew member that I thought he was wonderful. So in this case it was a good thing. It might depend on where you are and what is happening around you at the time.

Welcome back!

I have your answer. I got friendly with a staff member on CCL Magic last year. She worked at the service desk. We met off the ship after I verified it was OK to do so. She was very clear that crew is prohibited from flirting with passengers beyond a certain level. Staff and officers are allowed to interact on a more personal level. She agreed to go to the steakhouse with me but got swamped with work. We had a drink together the next day in port. Staff and above yes, crew No.

My son has hung out with staff but on a purely social level .... and more happenstance than planned.

If it is a crew member that I have gotten to know I will chat or hang out in port also. I had gotten to know a ship Doctor and we would hang out after dinner. Until then I did not know they got free drinks when off duty. If they were on public decks they had to be in uniform even when off duty.

On this last cruise I asked a female crew member if she was allowed to get together off the ship. She said yes and seemed interested to do it but was swamped with work as you mentioned and we never did. We did exchange email addresses (at her request). I sent her an email after getting home but not sure she'll even be able to answer with her work hours, the need to get sleep when off duty, and the crappy ship WIFI connection. Guess I'll have to book another cruise on the Grand Princess to meet her again. Happy

I've actually done this. The person was on break and I had a friendly conversation before so I said hello and chatted briefly. This was on another ship.

Staff yes. Crew no. That's all there is to it. As long as you are a gentleman and she likes you. And vice versa if a woman is interested in man.

We usually will say hi and move along to allow them to continue on their day. On one occasion we got of the ship and saw our waiter and his a few of his friends at a bar just outside the ship. I went over and bought them a beer and said we appreciated their hard work, $15 bought shocked faces that turned into genuine smiles.Small gestures go a long way.

Yes that's it. She is on staff. And she was on duty and would swing by and chat with me when ever I was in the Explorer's Lounge for the trivia or other events. I made sure to not act like a stalker. Always made sure to never interfere with her work. Had a couple of nice extended conversations when there wasn't many people in the Explorer's Lounge. It all started when she made a mistake with me and I blew it off as no big deal. From what she told me later, sometimes the passengers can get quite grumpy with the slightest mistakes.

Birds and the bees. Same on a ship and at home.


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